Right now I’m trying to make a big decision. It’s one that could be good or bad for me and the family depending on which way I look at it. That’s why I’ve decided to take a hint from the Rory Gilmore School of Anal Retentiveness and draw up my very own pro/con list.
So far this pro/con list is infuriatingly balanced. I have twelve pros and I have twelve cons. But how balanced is that, really? Obviously some of the points carry more weight than others so if, say, I’m considering a career as a circus clown, the fact that I’d probably never have to answer a telephone again might not be a fair counterpoint to the fact that I might just have to trail the elephants in the parade.
So how do you do it? Do you draw everything up and see which category is hitting you over the head with its obviousness (is that word?) or do you simply create the list to organize your thoughts and ultimately go with your gut?
I’ve tried to defer to my husband for some help here, but he’s taking a page from the I Just Want My Wife To Be Happy But Don’t Want Her To Blame Me If It Goes To Shit manual of spousal noncommittalness (again, is that a word?).
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Yep – its a word now!
I think all Hubby’s get that manual once they say “I do”.
I use my pro/con list as a therapeutic means to get out what’s in my brain. I sometimes write in bigger, bolder font (even in handwriting) those items that are a bigger deal to me – looking back once the list is done its usually pretty obvious what my decision should be.
If that doesn’t work, I sleep on it for a few nights. (If possible, that is.) It usually works itself out in my own brain.
LOL! Consider which of the choices is something that you have to do now and will never get a chance at it again. For example, everything else can wait while my kids are little because they’ll never be this way again. I also consider how it affects my family. If it takes too much sacrifice on their part for me to do my thing, than it’s not right for me. Good luck.
It sounds more like you need a Paris Geller type list. She was always assigning different worths to things and making the whole pro/con thing a lot more complex. I recommend putting them in order of importance. Like the very best pro at the top and the very worst con at the top so you can directly compare them.
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